And to be perfectly honest, if I the holiday induces in my friends and family…
and it doubles the amount of anxiety-induced emails I get.
Just buy something that isn't expensive, but that she can appreciate as having been bought for her.
Every year, once we get past Thanksgiving and Black-Eye Friday and the Christmas Shopping Season It’s a trickier question than you’d think.
Gift giving, whether at Christmas, Valentine’s Day or a birthday, can be fraught with insecurity and peril, especially when you’re at the beginning of a new relationship – or worse, are still in the “are we/aren’t we” stage of dating.
After all, no matter how much we try to tell ourselves that a gift is just a gift, what you give to your sweetie carries an intrinsic message about how you feel about them and your relationship. Ask around; buying expensive or outrageous gifts when you’re still early in the relationship is going to be a red flag to the majority of people. There are plenty of men – myself included – who’ve made the mistake of overcommitting on a gift too early in the relationship. Sometimes we legitimately trying to bowl them over and effectively buy their affections.
You're not close enough to plan a trip to Aruba together, nor are you close enough to give him an electric tweezer to take care of his stray hairs. Nothing says, "I'm still getting to know you," like making an extended offer to combine liquors, and nothing says, "we aren't quite at the sweatpants and wine phase in our relationship yet," like making an effort to learn how to make fancy-schmancy cocktails together. They're less creepy than a tattoo of his initials less expensive!