Heightism dating

Before we begin: Here are a couple of fun facts about my previous dating life. We dated because she thought I was confident and funny. Okay, that may not be the best analogy, I’m sure you understand where I’m coming. Some just look out for personality first, instead of looks. Once, I attempted to date a shorter man, who was 5’6″ on a good day. Because I was at a time in my life where I thought that I could not be so shallow as to date a man, or not, simply because of his height. First, I want to say that it took me a while to overcome the height issue even though I continued dating him and several other men until I settled on him.

Fun fact #1: I once dated a girl who was taller than me. Fun fact #2: I got rejected by girls who were taller than me because they couldn’t accept the fact that I was shorter than her. He and I went out about three times and all the while, I kept thinking ‘I can see over his head. That’s easy when you are not intimate with any of them.

"Once they find out my height they don't want to know," he said despondently.

Heightism is rife, particularly on apps like Tinder, and particularly towards men.

"It’s mind-boggling," says Gerard, 31, who is 5'10".

"You see these women who are overweight and unattractive clamoring for a tall man on their profiles, but I can’t ask that the girl be attractive or under a certain weight.” Now, the above quote crystallizes an important point.

Today I thought it would be a fun topic to discuss about women dating short guys. The same applies to women dating short guys as well. Some people love chocolate; some people love vanilla. Since, I have sworn tall guys, anyone over 6’0″ off!! There may be some truth to that, but as a woman who is 5’7″, I want to literally “look up” to a man, and not down or sideways.

Yup, classic stories about that involves heightism. Some people won’t mind if it’s chocolate or vanilla. Some just look out for personality first instead of looks. If you get rejected by women who are taller than you, please know that it’s not YOU. You’re simply not their type, maybe it’s your personality, perhaps it’s your height. As I shared earlier, the taller girl I dated loved my personality. There is a feeling of protection that I get from a taller man, real or imagined. I stopped forcing myself to go out with men because it’s the politically correct thing to do. I had opened myself up to this man that turned out to be perfect even though on the outside, being so short, it didn’t seem like he would have been my type. I could wax on for pages about how wonderful he is to me and how much I enjoy having him in my life.

I was usually one of the shortest guys in the group and had no doubt that this was why I wasn’t getting good results with women.

Dating advice books are cropping up specifically for short men.

Parents are giving their children dangerous hormonal therapies to increase their height.

Here's a common one: "I like to wear heels, so if you're under (insert desired height) swipe left." And it's not even just requests for guys who are slightly taller -- in some cases it's pushed to the statistical edges of male height.

Demanding that any suitors be taller than 6'3" is a rather limiting request considering the average male height in the US tops out around 5'10".