Mother To Baby experts are available to answer questions in English or Spanish by phone or chat.The free and confidential service is available Monday-Friday 8am-5pm (local time).Many people also use abbreviations on social media sites. Some are shown here in capitals (for example: AFK), but they can also be in small letters (for example: afk).If families would like to speak to someone about a possible Zika virus infection or diagnosis during pregnancy and risk to the baby, please contact Mother To Baby.Depending on the context, men and women can experience social consequences if their act of infidelity becomes public.The form and extent of these consequences are often dependent on the gender of the unfaithful person.A few men also asked me to define objectification, which to me seems prudent. Defining Objectification in the context of this blog post:“I think what we are calling “objectification” is its own line of development and that “picturing myself fucking her,” is a limited sliver of what the interpenetrating faculties which cause a man’s bodymind to go there can actually unfold into.” Is there any truth to the first lists above?Sure, and in my experience men who have done personal work on themselves and have the ability to self-reflect and take ownership have more insightful responses. So when I check out women, what is really going on with me?
All sexual partnerships should include the safety, space and expectation of specific instruction and a lengthy learning curve when it comes to pleasuring each other.Neither should be cast as a time-consuming “educational burden” but rather a chance to connect via verbalizing our unique erotic make-ups.One of my favorite sex educators Al Vernacchio says of sex: “The most freeing thing we can do is allow ourselves to be awkward. And when we can unplug from our devices and experience all of this for real with our partners, we create intimacy. It will take work to lift the shroud of mystery, shame and deprioritization that has cloaked female pleasure for a long, long, long time. What questions can I ask my partner to learn about her unique sexual pleasure?And no one in porn is ever awkward.” Rarely does the suave guy we see in porns fall off the bed, get a leg cramp or ask his co-performer, “Remind me exactly where your clitoris is again, babe? What should I do if these techniques don’t pan out in the sack?” All of these negotiations happens off-screen and mistakes are edited to present picture-perfect-penetration and opulent orgasms. How can I instruct my partner to do what pleasures me without hurting his/her ego?